Thank you!

Thank you to everyone who responded to the newsletter from last week!

I asked you guys several questions and the feedback I've received has been surprisingly wholesome and affirms what I'm writing to you is helpful.

I'll be sure to include more tips and strategies in future content based on the topics you guys want to know more about.

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Let's talk about fear.

I don't celebrate Halloween, but it's a funny coincidence that this is the topic of today's newsletter.

Lately, I've been dissecting my fear:

Making Decisions

Indecisiveness is dreadful.

It's effected every single part of my day.

I fear making the wrong decision and I value other people's choices over mine.

When I do make a decision, I still call someone to make sure they also think it's the right choice.

There are so many ugly things that come with indecisiveness:

• Jealousy
• Insecurities
• Codependency
• People-pleasing
• Low self-esteem
• Anxiety and anger
• Guilt and frustration
• Self-criticism when wrong
• Abandoning your own needs
• Not trusting your own judgment

It's been quite a journey overcoming this. Especially in relationships.

I have this journal. I write to God in it.

Not as often as I used to, but at least a few times a month.

Some pages have prayers, others have my Bible study notes and dreams I've had.

Last week, I was flipping to a new page and I came across a prayer I made around this time last year.

I got a little sad.

I flipped the page to see my prayer from the month before.

Then I got discouraged.

I flipped through more pages.

"This is ridiculous," I thought.

I've been writing the same prayers for the past 2 years.

There have been no significant changes in what I've prayed for and prayed about.

I don't like going through my journals for this exact reason. I've done this a few times and have gotten so upset and angry at God that I'd stop talking to Him, reading, and worshipping.

But after about 3 days, I can't ignore God.

So I closed my journal, I stepped back, and I asked the Holy Spirit to open my eyes and help me see this from His perspective.

I don't know how, but my next thoughts were about me being indecisive, or "double-minded" as the Bible puts it, because I was an over-protected child.

Growing up, every decision I made (or tried to make) was judged harshly, picked apart with interrogating questions, manipulated into changing my mind, or wrong to the 10th degree.

As a result, I've struggled with trusting myself to make even the simplest decisions.

I've gotten a lot better over the years, but I can now see that this fear has also been in my relationship with God.

And He's definitely not going to reinforce trauma! Lol

The love we learn to receive from God is that of a loving parent who:

Allows His children to exercise their free will.

Make their own choices and mistakes.

Use their authority in Jesus Christ.

He even allows us to freely decide if we're going to love Him back!

So why wouldn't He leave my repetitive prayers of "Tell me what to do, Lord! Let Your Will be done!" go unanswered?

If God were to make every decision for me, I'd have no room to practice having faith. I wouldn't have confidence in anything I do. There would be no healing.

His silence has been His answer! This is His Will:

• To make our own plans and decisions
• Acknowledge Him in all our ways (i.e. pray before, during and after)
• Take action on our plans and expect them to succeed
• Have faith that He'll correct us if we're doing something wrong

And most importantly: Listen to Him when He DOES speak!

Now, I haven't done anything since getting this revelation. I'm sort of letting it "simmer." But I can confidently say that my prayers and journal entries are going to look very different moving forward!

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This Week's Actionable Tip:

Have No Fear

Leave your fear(s) behind in 2023!

And if you also struggle with indecisiveness, here's the game plan:

• Make a decision
• Don't second guess it
• Pray over the moves we make
• Give ourselves grace when we make mistakes
• Remind ourselves that God WANTS us to decide, because through His Son, we've already won!

What fear do you have?

How will you overcome it?

That's all for this week, hopefully this was helpful to you!

Talk soon,

Kyra

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